Mother decries non-assistance of CC&PA, Police

first_img…full-fledged investigation to determine institution at faultBy Andrew CarmichaelAs the Social Protection Ministry continues to ascertain which entity should take responsibility for a lax response to reports of sexual exploitation of two young females, the mother of the 12-year-old girl who has reportedly gone missing for over five months is calling for the public’s assistance to rescue her.CC&PA Director Ann GreeneReports are that the woman’s daughter is being held by two adult brothers at a location in Berbice. The young lady was held along with a 13-year-old who reportedly escaped.They were said to have been held at a camp, where they were subjected to starvation, sexual assault and other forms of abuse.The mother of the 12-year-old told Guyana Times on Tuesday that the Police in Berbice and the New Amsterdam office of the Child Care and Protection Agency (CC&PA) were well aware of the issue, but had done nothing to actively pursue the matter. She claimed that she first went to the CC&PA and was turned away, with operatives attached to the Agency reportedly saying that the incident was a Police matter. When the media got wind of the incident on Monday, the Social Protection Ministry requested that it be given one day to pursue efforts to find the missing girl. However, after the story was reported in the press, the Agency embarked on damage control, with a senior official observing that other units involved in protecting children needed to be investigated. These entities are the Probation Office and the Trafficking in Persons Unit in addition to Police.This publication was told that after media operatives began calling the Ministry and the CC&PA for comments on the issue, an official from the Ministry (name withheld) contacted the child’s mother and verbally abused her for speaking with the media. This newspaper contacted the officer, who said that she would return the call, but up to press time, no call was received.Guyana Times was also told that when a female relative called the CC&PA on Tuesday with additional information on the whereabouts of the alleged abductors, the woman was allegedly verbally abused by an official attached to the Agency, who reportedly said that the worried parent “needs to step back and allow the Police to do their job”. The mother of the 12-year-old, however, told the media that the response from the Police has been very slow. She noted that her daughter went missing in June and in a bid to find her, they had placed posters at certain strategic locations in the area.Escaped teen speaks outMeanwhile, the 13-year-old girl, in the presence of two adults, revealed that the ordeal was facilitated by a woman who allegedly moved her from the New Amsterdam Market under the pretext that they were going to collect money that the woman had for the girl’s father. This publication understands that the woman is the mother of the two males who held the girls in captivity.The teen also disclosed that the car stopped at a village along the East Bank of Berbice where one of the woman’s sons was waiting with a motor bike. She alleged that she was forced to get on the bike and was taken to Mara where she was bound and further taken to the camp along the Berbice River where she saw another school friend.The teen added that she was repeatedly raped by one of the men at the camp. She denied that she willingly went into the illegal arrangement with another friend. The underage girl held out that she was indeed kidnapped. Though her father remarked that his daughter was not always truthful, the girl’s mother stressed that she, like the 12-year-old’s mother, felt the Police have similarly let her down in every aspect. The matter was reported to the Prime Minister’s office on the Corentyne, and the woman indicated to this newspaper her hope that the issue would get the attention of senior Government officials.Probe into cracks in the systemMeanwhile, CC&PA Director Ann Greene when contacted for an update on the matter told Guyana Times that investigations are underway to determine what occurred.“I now have my officer investigating, so whether or not it’s really us, Probation or what, I got to find out; I’m doing investigations,” Greene highlighted.Responding to the less than favourable reports of the comments her agency’s staff at the New Amsterdam office made towards relatives of the exploited girls, Greene indicated that a full-fledged investigation would be conducted about the claims.“I will now find out what happened. I have asked my officer to give a report – if they know anything about the matter,” she noted. (Additional reporting by Shemuel Fanfair)last_img read more

College roundup: USC comes up short against ASU

first_img Pepperdine 3, BYU 2: Paul Carroll had 22 kills as the No. 2-ranked Waves (10-1, 8-1 Mountain Pacific Sports Federation) defeated the top-ranked Cougars (9-3, 5-2) 30-20, 27-30, 32-30, 25-30, 15-13 at Firestone Fieldhouse. Pepperdine, which received 18 kills and five digs from J.D. Schleppenbach, rallied from a 9-8 deficit in the final game to extend its winning streak to seven. It marked the second straight year the Waves and Cougars squared off in a battle of the nation’s top two teams. Last season, No. 2 Pepperdine split at top-ranked BYU. Jon Grobe added 14 kills and Greg Gaudino contributed 10 for Pepperdine, which plays host to BYU at 1 p.m. Saturday. BYU lost its third in a row. USC 3, Hawaii 2: Juan Figueroa had a career-high 35 kills as the No. 14 Trojans (4-8, 3-6 MPSF) defeated the No. 12 Warriors (2-9, 2-7) 27-30, 30-20, 24-30, 30-23, 15-13 in a match that ended late Wednesday in Honolulu. CSUN 3, Long Beach State 2: Dan Rhodes had 23 kills and Travis Bluemling recorded 54 assists as host CSUN (7-7, 5-4 MPSF) held off the 49ers (6-6, 3-5) 28-30, 30-20, 30-21, 28-30, 19-17. 160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set! Arizona State also tied school records for most conference and regular-season victories. Jamie Hagiya scored 15 points for the Trojans (15-10, 9-6), who had won nine of 11. Eshaya Murphy added 10 points and 12 rebounds. USC failed to make a basket in the final 9:55 of the first half and scored only one point in the final 5:02 before the break. USC got to 60-57 with 1:20 left before the Sun Devils made all six of their free throws in an 8-0 run that ended the game. Arizona 66, UCLA 63: Noelle Quinn scored 17 points for UCLA, but the Bruins fell short against Arizona, losing 66-63 in a Pacific-10 Conference game at Pauley Pavilion. UCLA (13-14 overall, 7-8 conference) trailed 64-63 and had the ball, but turned it over on a bad pass, and Arizona sophomore guard Malia O’Neal made two free throws with 0.8 seconds remaining to clinch the victory for the Wildcats (10-18, 4-12). MEN’S VOLLEYBALL center_img Aubree Johnson had 20 points, 10 rebounds and three blocks, and No. 10 Arizona State took control with a big first-half run in a 68-57 victory over USC on Thursday night at the Galen Center. Danielle Orsillo added 11 points, and Jill Noe and Briann January scored 10 points apiece for the Sun Devils (24-3, 14-2 Pacific-10), who earned their 13th victory in 14 games. last_img read more

Viewpoint gets better of Yucca Valley

first_imgRaynr broke the scoreless tie on a penalty kick eight minutes into the 20-minute overtime. It was the first goal the De Anza League champions allowed this postseason. CALABASAS – Evan Raynr’s two overtime goals Tuesday lifted Viewpoint High of Calabasas to a 2-0 victory over visiting Yucca Valley in the Southern Section DivisionVI semifinals, sending the Patriots to the first final in program history. “This is a really powerful win for me,” Raynr said. “It felt good to put those two in. … I’ve played in some important games, but honestly, this is the biggest win to me, to do it with this team. “We never thought we’d get this far and things have just fallen into place.” Third-seeded Viewpoint (20-0-6), without Raynr’s services much of the season while he trained with the U.S. national team, goes for its first undefeated season when the Patriots play in the division championship game on Saturday. center_img 160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set!last_img read more

4 Sunni bombs kill 183 in Baghdad

first_imgBAGHDAD – Suspected Sunni insurgents penetrated the Baghdad security net Wednesday, hitting Shiite targets with four bomb attacks that killed 183 people – the bloodiest day since the U.S. troop increase began nine weeks ago. The most devastating blast struck the Sadriyah market as workers were leaving for the day, charring a lineup of minibuses that came to pick them up. At least 127 people were killed and 148 wounded, including men who were rebuilding the market after a Feb. 3 bombing left 137 dead. Wednesday’s car bombing appeared meticulously planned. It took place at a pedestrian entrance where tall concrete barriers had been erected after the earlier attack. It was the only way out of the compound, and the construction workers were widely known to leave at about 4 p.m. – the time of the bombing. One builder, 28-year-old Salih Mustafa, said he was waiting for a bus home when the bomb exploded. “I rushed with others to give a hand and help the victims,” he said. “I saw three bodies in a wooden cart, and civilian cars were helping to take away the victims. It was really a horrible scene.” U.S. military spokesman Maj. Gen. William Caldwell told The Associated Press that al-Qaida in Iraq was suspected in the bombing. “Initial indications based on intelligence sources show that it was linked to al-Qaida,” Caldwell said in a late-night telephone interview. Echoing those remarks, U.S. Defense Secretary Robert Gates called the bombings “horrifying” and accused al-Qaida of being behind them. The attacks appeared to be yet another attempt by Sunni insurgents and al-Qaida to force Shiite militiamen back onto the streets. Radical Shiite cleric Muqtada al-Sadr had ordered his Mahdi Army fighters to put away their weapons and go underground before the security crackdown began, leaving regions like those bombed on Wednesday highly vulnerable. An outburst of violence from the Shiite militia would also ease pressure on the Sunni insurgents, creating a second front for U.S. and Iraqi soldiers struggling to diminish violence in the capital and provide time for the Iraqi government to gather momentum for sectarian reconciliation. U.S. officials have reported a decrease in sectarian killings in Baghdad since the U.S.-Iraqi security crackdown was launched Feb. 14. But the past week has seen several spectacular attacks in the capital, including a suicide bombing inside parliament and a powerful blast that collapsed a landmark bridge across the Tigris River. The number of bodies dumped in the streets of Baghdad also has risen significantly. Brig. Gen. Qassim al-Moussawi, the Iraqi military spokesman, said, “We have not seen such a wave of attacks since the security plan began. These are terrorist challenges. Ninety-five percent of those killed today were civilians.” Late Wednesday, Prime Minister Nouri al-Maliki ordered the arrest of the Iraqi army colonel who was in charge of security in the region around the Sadriyah market. The colonel’s name was not given. “Our Iraqi people are being subjected to a brutal attack that does not differentiate between an old man, a child or a woman. This targeting of civilian populations brings back to our minds the mass crimes and genocide committed by the Saddamist dictatorial regime,” said a statement from al-Maliki’s office. The 127 deaths in the market bombing were recorded by Raad Muhsin, an official at al-Kindi Hospital morgue where the victims were taken. A police official confirmed the toll, speaking on condition of anonymity because he was not authorized to release the information. Besides the market attack, bombs struck Shiite targets in the capital at a police checkpoint, near a hospital and in a small bus. Nationwide the number of people killed or found dead was 233, which was second only to a total of 281 killed or found dead on Nov. 23, 2006. Those figures are according to AP record-keeping, which began in May 2005. Caldwell said militants were “attempting to destroy any sense of security the people of Baghdad were beginning to feel with the security operation in Baghdad.” He called insurgents a “vicious cancer on the body of Iraq. You’ve got to keep fighting it. We’re not going to give up.” Many of the most devastating bomb attacks in the country have come in the past several months, indicating insurgents have developed more sophisticated or powerful explosives. U.S. military officials announced that last week they found 3,000 gallons of nitric acid hidden in a warehouse in downtown Baghdad. U.S. forces discovered the acid, a key fertilizer component that can also be used in explosives, during a routine search April 12, the military said. Timothy M. Swager, head of the chemistry department at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, said that aside from being used to make explosives, nitric acid could cause dangerous burns if used directly on people. 160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set!last_img read more

Firm must pay $17.7 million to injured man

first_img“Anytime a plaintiff is on a motorcycle, the jury will find them somewhat at fault, just because they’re on a motorcycle,” Mallabo’s lawyer, David M. Ring, said in explaining the jury’s decision he was 5 percent at fault. Wan Hai Lines attorney Douglas D. Cullins was out of the office in trial this week, a receptionist said. The jury decided Wan Hai Lines must pay Mallabo $3.6 million for medical bills and lost wages and $15million for past and future pain and suffering. Tai’s husband, Ching Tarng Lin, was transferred to the company’s Long Beach office and his wife moved with him from Taiwan. California law allows drivers to rely on foreign licenses as long as they don’t move permanently. Tai attempted to obtain a California license four days before the accident but failed the road test. Failure means a driver made at least 16 mistakes during the test, Ring said. “If you can’t pass the test, you shouldn’t be driving here,” Ring said.160Want local news?Sign up for the Localist and stay informed Something went wrong. Please try again.subscribeCongratulations! You’re all set! NORWALK – A Taiwanese shipping firm must pay $17.7 million to a motorcyclist severely injured when the wife of the company’s U.S. president struck his motorcycle with a company car. Wen-Ting Tai turned a Wan Hai Lines company car into the motorcycle’s path on Oct. 23, 2004, four days after she made at least 16 mistakes and flunked the California driving test. The Norwalk Superior Court jury deliberated two days before deciding April 19 on the $18.6 million award. The panel said the motorcyclist, plaintiff Joyson Mallabo, was 5 percent at fault. Mallabo, who was 23 at the time of the crash, was riding his motorcycle in Cerritos when Wen-Ting Tai turned left in front of him at an uncontrolled intersection. He suffered massive injuries and must now use a cane to walk. last_img read more


first_imgMagical Tory Island off the coast of Donegal has been a place of wonder and curiosity for many people over the years.Boasting a population of around just 150 people, the island boasts a rugged landscape which deserves to be explored at least once.Its magical cliffs, naturalised artists and unspoiled beauty make it the perfect escape from everyday life. It’s also a stunning place for which to see the Northern Lights.Local photographer/videographer Owen Clarke captures the stunning beauty of the island in this wonderful short film.Simply click on the video to enjoy.DDTV: TORY ISLAND FROM ABOVE ON A STUNNING SPRING DAY was last modified: March 20th, 2016 by StephenShare this:Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window)Click to share on Telegram (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to share on Skype (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window) Tags:DDTVOwen ClarkeTory Islandlast_img read more

Newly found ape-man lived alongside Lucy, 3 million years ago

first_imgThey call it Australopithecus deyiremeda, a name derived from “close relative” in a language from the Afar region of Ethiopia. This brand new and previously unsuspected ape-man species, discovered in Ethiopia, lived in the same time and place as one of our potential ancestors: Lucy, or Australopithecus afarensis. A still from a video comparing Australopith skeletons with those of chimpanzees and modern humans. See below. (Image: California Academy of Sciences) • World heritage in South Africa • Cradle of Humankind is our human heritage • Women cavers on underground fossil hunt • Cape bones add new chapter to human history • Gallery: South Africa’s new ape-man speciesJohn McNabb, University of SouthamptonThere are few things more exciting to a palaeontologist than the discovery of a new species. Work will now begin to try to figure out exactly how this hominin relates to our own species.The discovery was made from a number of fossils, dating back 3.3- to 3.5-million years ago. They comprise part of an upper jaw bone with some of the teeth as well as most of a lower jaw bone with a few of its teeth. There are also a couple of other fragments of jaws and teeth.A cast of the upper teeth and lower jawbone of Australopithecus deyiremeda, the newly found species of Australopith. (Photo: Laura Dempsey)Out of the trees yet?The fossils raise many questions that are hard to answer. For instance we can’t know whether the hominin actually walked upright, as there are no bones apart from the skull bones available. The researchers, who report their findings in the journal Nature, have previously found fragments of a foot bone in the same area which dated to 3.4-million years ago. The owner of this foot may not yet have completely left the trees.As there are specimens of Lucy’s species A afarensis not far away, it is likely that the two were contemporary. We know that Lucy and her kind were bipeds as we have their foot bones. There is also an amazingly preserved footprint trail in Laetoli, Tanzania.A representation of the Lucy specimen of Australopithecus afarensis in the Natural History Museum in Washington DC. Lucy was 1.1 metres (3′ 7″) tall and weighed 29 kilograms (64 pounds). The worldwide average height of modern adult humans is 1.6 metres (5′ 3″) for women and 1.73 metres (5′ 8″) for men. (Photo: Wikimedia Commons)The foot of A deyiremeda – if that earlier discovery of a partial foot does turn out to belong to this species – is quite different from Lucy’s.There are other Australopiths around at the same time too. In Chad there is the enigmatic A bahrelghazali, only a little older. In South Africa, there’s the Little Foot skeleton from Sterkfontein, recently re-dated to 3.7-million years ago. Some paleoanthropologists want to interpret Little Foot as a new species of Australopith, A prometheus, but others are reluctant to identify it as a new species yet.But the case the discoverers of A deyiremeda have put forward supports their fossils being a new species. There are numerous differences in the jaws and teeth between these remains and those of other species of Australopith. Further south in Kenya there is another hominin around at the same time, not only a different species, but one belonging to a wholly different genus – Kenyanthropus platyops. But A deyiremeda is not like this either.An astonishingly successful genusExactly where A deyiremeda fits in among our ancestors is, however, hard to know. We are Homo sapiens sapiens. Our genus, Homo, is the family we belong to along with our extinct cousins like Homo neanderthalensis and possible ancestors like Homo erectus. Our species is sapiens, meaning wise, and we add another sapiens on to our name to distinguish ourselves from the earliest members of our species. But here is the thing: we are the only species in our genus. From an evolutionary perspective, that is not a healthy sign.Up until today, genus Australopithecus had six, maybe seven species in it depending on who you believe. That is an astonishingly successful genus as far as evolution goes. The oldest yet found is A anamensis, which is more than 4-million years old. The youngest is A sediba which is about 1.9-million years old. That’s a life span of nearly 2-million years between these species. The reason so many species can emerge is because natural selection experiments with different adaptations and different ecological niches.The upper jaw of Australopithecus deyiremeda, the newly found species of Australopith. (Photo: Yohannes Haile-Selassie)The newly discovered A deyiremeda comes from the earlier phase in Australopith evolution. Exactly how it relates to our own species is hard to know. However, many of the features of its jaws and teeth are seen in later hominins, particularly a group of flat-faced ape-men called Paranthropus. These are not on our evolutionary line. The researchers also describe some similarities between A deyiremeda and early Homo, but in the paper they also point out some important differences between the new discoveries and the earliest known member of our own genus, currently dated to 2.8-million years old. So for the moment this is an open question.But there is a last twist to the tale here. For a long time we believed that members of our own genus were the only toolmakers in the hominin record. Now we know that’s not true. Recent reports have established the oldest yet discovered stone tools date to 3.3-million years ago – that’s half a million years older than the earliest member of genus Homo.Tool-making may even go back a bit further. There are contested cut marks from stone tools on bones dated at 3.4-million years ago at Dikika in Ethiopia. Guess which species are around at that time in East Africa? You guessed it: A afarensis, K. platyops and A deyiremeda. Up until today it was K. platyops that was the favoured candidate for this early toolmaker, but today’s announcement of A deyiremeda puts a new player in the game.John McNabb is Senior Lecturer in Palaeolithic Archaeology at University of Southampton.This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.last_img read more

Get fit with GeoFit

first_imgNow that you know how to get GeoFit, what’s stopping you? FTF Sprints: If you’re not FTF you’re LTF. The pain of losing your FTF to someone else is over. FTF Sprints will pump your legs with cheetah-like speed and spot caches quicker than ever. What you need: 4-6 caches and log books, 1 pen, 1 stop watchHow to do it: Set up each cache 10 meters from one another. Start 20-30 meters away from the first cache. Run as fast as you can to the first cache, sign the log-book, then go back to the finish line. Take a rest and repeat until all caches have been signed.Ammo can curls: Time to get buff. Who knows when the next ammo can won’t open for you, or might be stuck in the mud. Curling ammo cans will not only help you in these situations, but it will also give you the strength of an ox. What you need: Ammo cans, weights/rocks, heave trackables, arm(s)How to do it: Hold the ammo cans by your waist and slowly bring your forearms up to chin level. You can break up you curls into sets of 10, 15, or 20. To increase the weight of the ammo can, fill it with trackables, SWAG, or rocks to increase the weight. When you find an ammo can make it a goal to curl it a few times before you claim your find.Low reach lunges: We’ve all been there. Caching all day long but there’s one more cache. You get to GZ you realize it’s a micro–and it is low to the ground. Never feel like a cache is too low again! After a few repetitions you’ll be a low reach champ, no cache will be too low for you. What you need: A magnetic micro, and a low reaching benchHow: Place the micro at a low point that will cause you to lunge forward on one knee to grab it. Repeat on both legs 10 times. Take a break, and then repeat.Micro Twists: You find a micro in the woods. You’re so proud. Then, it won’t open! Perhaps it’s rusted shut, or it was twisted on extra tight. Contrary to belief, the micro twist is a motion that requires strength from your entire body. What you need: A micro or nano cache, glue.How to do it: Twist and untwist the micro or nano with all of your might 20 times, then repeat. For extra resistance trying gluing your nano shut, or leave it outside for a nice rusty finish. Cache along a route-long run: You may need to have a fire extinguisher after you master this workout because you’ll be smokin’ fast. Be a front-runner and keep a leg up on your competition with the Cache along a route long run. Soon enough you’ll be running Marathon’s grabbing caches along the way. What you need: Running shoes, a watch, a map or GPS, a penHow to do it: Map your run on using the map function, or use the cache-along-a-route feature. Estimate the distance, and set yourself a time goal. Repeat your routes until you’re #GeoFitMulti-Cache circuit: Everyone knows the key to endurance caching is exercising the core of your body. With Multi-Cache circuit you’ll unknowingly walk into 20 stage Multi’s like an experienced pro. What you need: Just yourselfHow to do it: There are many core workouts you can substitute. Forward planks, push-ups, and crunches can get you started. Do 1 minute of each work out every time you find a stage of the Multi-Cache. Share with your Friends:More SharePrint RelatedHelicopter Geocaching – The Ultimate First To Find (FTF)July 13, 2011In “Community”Be a better hiderAugust 21, 2018In “News”Groundspeak Weekly Newsletter – April 4, 2012April 4, 2012In “Groundspeak’s Weekly Newsletter” Have you ever been beaten to an FTF?Couldn’t get the ammo can unstuck out of the mud?Couldn’t untwist a micro?Become bigger faster and stronger with Geocaching’s GeoFit program. Based on years of research and rigorous testing (probably), our GeoFit program will give you the strength you need for success out in the field.We target each of these areas with exercises to help train your body for these challenging geocaching situation and many more.Don’t Quit. Get GeoFit.last_img read more

Light up your Holidays: Helpful Survival Tips for the Holiday Season

first_imgNow, save this to your phone or computer or print yourself a copy so you can pull it out next year on November 1st! We will remind you! Happy Holidays from all of us at MFLN Family Development!This post was written by Bari Sobelson, MS, LMFT, the social media and programming specialist for the MFLN Family Development Team. The Family Development team aims to support the development of professionals working with military families.  Find out more about the Military Families Learning Network Family Development team on our website, Facebook, and Twitter. Spending time with people we love and with people we don’t- This is a tough one, we know. But, try to think of it as a balance, the yin and yang, if you will. Spending time with the people we don’t like all that much will help us appreciate those we do even more. Want a tip? Challenge yourself this year and try to find ONE thing that you really like about the person (or people) you are not looking forward to seeing. We often end up getting caught up in past feelings that we have towards certain people in our lives. Try and use this strategy as a catalyst for changing your relationship to that person. Sure, it may be tough, but that’s why it’s called a challenge. Cooking, eating, and hoping that our pants will still zip- You thought the Family Development team would be able to give you tips on this?! We will leave it to the experts over at MFLN Nutrition and Wellness to cover this one. Trying to figure out what to do with the kids while they are out of school for a few weeks- I know the story all too well. It seems like the holiday breaks from school sneak up on us so fast. And, before we know it, we find ourselves struggling to find childcare for our kiddos. Want a tip? At the beginning of the school year, instead of only putting the dates that the kids are out of school in the calendar, put a reminder about 1 month ahead of time for the holiday break. This way, if you are like me and only look at one week at a time, it won’t sneak up on you and come as a complete shock when the kids get out next week and you have no one to keep them. Be kind to yourself by inserting lots of little reminders and post-it notes to help you keep track of it all! NO ONE can retain that much information without some assistance. Additionally, this tip will help the kids that have harder times with transitions. You can give them ample opportunity to prepare for their holiday break plans!Trying very hard not to lose your patience with the kids when they are constantly begging for every single toy they see in the store from now until the actual holiday you celebrate- Yes… it happens to us all! And I can pretty confidently say that you did this to your parents when you were a kid too. Want a tip? Stay in your house, locked away until all of the holidays are over. JUST KIDDING! Suggesting that you stay away from any toy section in a store is really not helpful. Most stores these days have figured out the ingenious marketing strategy of placing toys throughout the entire place, starting in October. Want a tip? For your kids who know how to read and write: give them a notebook and pen and allow them to take it with them when you go shopping. Tell them that they may write down things that they see that make them want to yell out to the world that they want it. But, tell them up front that the paper is where they must share this, rather than out loud. You are helping yourself and them in a couple of different ways here. You are helping them with their reading and writing, you are helping them exercise self-control by using their hands to communicate rather than their mouths. You are helping yourself by having some quiet time, by saving yourself from having to repeat the same phrases over and over again (no, you can’t have that or maybe you will get that for Christmas or Hanukkah), AND you are having them make a wish list for you instead of having to dig deep down into those memory banks to pull out which toy it was that they went nuts over.(For some military families) Figuring out how to navigate the holidays while a loved one is deployed- The truth is, this stinks. And, it would be amazing if all members of our families could be with us during the holidays. But, it’s just not always possible. Want a tip? Try to find other families experiencing the same absence during the holidays to have some moral support and be able to reciprocate that support. Include the absent family member by sharing stories about them during your gatherings. Come together as a family and make care packages that include family-made crafts.Having to manage a completely packed schedule full of school events, family gatherings, extracurricular activities, work holiday parties and all of the other things that might come up- You know this happens every single year without fail. It’s like the flood gates open on November 1st and it looks like you won’t have one single free moment until the end of January. Want a tip? Remember this- you don’t have to attend everything. In fact, it might be a good idea not to do it all. If it feels too overwhelming, try to prioritize the functions. You can even make this a family activity by sitting down with everyone and sharing each other’s top 3 activities that they would like to attend. Then, decide as a family on what you will attend and what you will not. Take some pressure off of yourselves by taking a couple of activities off of your list.Planning ways to see everyone in the family over the holidays so that no one gets their feelings hurt – Yes, folks, I brought it up! I mean, why not? They make movies about it, right? We have all been there at some point. We want to try our best to please everyone and to see everyone. But, here is the truth: It just may not happen. The best way to manage this it to take turns each year or each holiday. But, make sure that you write it down somewhere so that you don’t have to try and remember what you did the year before. And, make the plans ahead of time rather than on the fly. If you can work out times that you can have holiday celebrations on dates other than the actual holidays, that’s okay too. Try to just appreciate the fact that you can get together at all rather than getting too caught up on the actual date.Budgeting appropriately so that you can buy everyone nice gifts without going into complete debt- We aren’t too great at this topic either. So, read up on what our friends at Personal Finance have to say about this!  Bari Sobelson, MS, LMFTpixabay[Christmas Lights by Ash_barr, December 19, 2015, CCO]Okay, folks… it’s that time again! The holidays are just around the corner. And, with that comes the following:Spending time with people we love and with people we don’tCooking, eating and the hope that our pants will still zipTrying to figure out what to do with the kids while they are out of school for a few weeks and what it will take to get them to stop begging for every single toy they see in the store from now until the actual holiday you celebrate(For some military families) Figuring out how to navigate the holidays while a loved one is deployedHaving to manage a completely packed schedule full of school events, family gatherings, extracurricular activities, work holiday parties and all of the other things that might come up! Planning ways to see everyone in the family over the holidays so that no one gets their feelings hurt Budgeting appropriately so that you can buy everyone nice gifts without going into complete debtcenter_img Do any (or all) of these sound familiar to you? And, if you are anything like me, I somehow manage to have most of this list pop up every single year without fail. You would think that we would have all of this down to a science by now, right? Well, don’t you worry! You are in good company! Here are a few tips that might help you this holiday season! And, try to remember where you put this when you are feeling it all come back around next year.last_img read more

One killed in Bhangar, former TMC MLA arrested

first_imgAhead of the panchayat polls in West Bengal, Bhangar, in the State’s South 24 Parganas, witnessed fresh violence late on Friday evening. A 26-year-old villager, who is said to be a supporter of an independent candidate contesting the rural polls, was killed.Following the incident, former Trinamool Congress (TMC) MLA and local strongman Arabul Islam was arrested.The incident took place when TMC cadres and followers of Arabul attacked a rally taken out in support of an independent candidate at the Natunhat village at Bhangar II block.The deceased was a supporter of the Committee for Protection of Land, Livelihood, Ecology and Environment, which has been agitating against setting up a power grid in the area for the past couple of years. The concerned independent candidate is also supported by the Committee.“Our supporter Hafijul Molla (26) was shot dead by TMC cadres during an election rally on Friday at Natunhat village. Five other supporters also sustained bullet injuries,” a member of the Committee said. He further alleged that TMC cadres and followers of the former ruling party MLA Arabul were behind the attack.Chief Minister Mamata Banerjee, during a video chat on social media, said that “there are Maoists in Bhangar and they are in touch with their counterparts in Bihar. I have asked police to take action against Arabul.” However, she did not elaborate on the reason behind her instructions.The incident comes at a time when there has been renewed tension between the Committee and TMC over filing nominations for the panchayat polls. The Committee has fielded nine candidates- eight for gram panchayats seats and one for panchayat samity seat- for the rural polls.Bhangar has remained tense since January 2017 when two persons were killed during a clash between the agitators and police over a proposed power grid.last_img read more